tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-302767455915995629.post1328614261482663488..comments2024-01-17T05:33:20.530-08:00Comments on Dan, in real time.: Male Vulverability...An Oxymoron?Unknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-302767455915995629.post-73663835933197913012009-12-31T17:01:52.675-08:002009-12-31T17:01:52.675-08:00Holding you close dear brother in sorrow - I have ...Holding you close dear brother in sorrow - I have become so much more conscious of saying widowed - meaning all of us - your post is so wonderful. We are all in this together - in our grief and in our journey - love and hugs to you Dan. xoSuzannhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00324352371488938537noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-302767455915995629.post-86036408988713232682009-12-31T08:08:17.338-08:002009-12-31T08:08:17.338-08:00and I'm bringing my own glow sticks (yes they ...and I'm bringing my own glow sticks (yes they are the remnants of a mis-spent but happy decade) ... I'll let you share mine xBoohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10695496303699631884noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-302767455915995629.post-85646882311867770392009-12-31T07:42:54.565-08:002009-12-31T07:42:54.565-08:00i second Boo. do consider coming to see us all in...i second Boo. do consider coming to see us all in San Diego. my daughter is going to make me bring some glow sticks. she wants a photo of me and everyone "raving" by the harbor behind/in front of the hotel. me dancing with glow sticks? if that's not a draw i don't know what would be.abandonedsoulshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06020499806998154330noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-302767455915995629.post-13482693481814779652009-12-31T06:24:59.865-08:002009-12-31T06:24:59.865-08:00I loved this Dan. It takes courage to break the s...I loved this Dan. It takes courage to break the stupid, stupid "rules" of society's expectations of men ... I mean, it's stupid, stupid, stupid to expect men to deal with grief better, not to be emotional, not to cry ... when you feel as much heartbreak and pain as I do in loss.<br /><br />Your loss is as enormous as my own - why then, does society expect you to deal with it in a less emotional way? STUPID.<br /><br />That said, you are very right in that there are less blogs, less photos, less groups etc. I wish it were not the case.<br /><br />I hope they follow your lead and say it as it is. Recently, when posting, I have tried to remember saying "widow/er" instead of simply "widow" because it had started to bug me.<br /><br />And while I'm on the subject, please consider coming to the National Conference on Widowhood in August in San Diego ... or if you do not want to, perhaps we could meet for dinner (wNs, SuddenWidow, me ...) around that time?Boohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10695496303699631884noreply@blogger.com