tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-302767455915995629.post3735575303444975279..comments2024-01-17T05:33:20.530-08:00Comments on Dan, in real time.: Strong ArmUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-302767455915995629.post-80561323409486929352010-08-03T06:14:26.114-07:002010-08-03T06:14:26.114-07:00i can offer few words to help since you know your ...i can offer few words to help since you know your son so much better. you are the authority on what is right for him, and for yourself. i do know that i always talked to my son and daughter. gentle words, pushing into their minds: "what is it you want?" "what happened today to make you act (or feel) like this?" "i like that you did this, or said that, or didn't say or didn't do..." i questioned and softly gave unsolicited advice. i was always there. my only job was to recon the perimeter waiting to see what mood their father was going to be in so i could protect them. my situation was so unlike yours that i think my advice is moot.<br /><br />you are such a good father. they know you love them. you tell them. positive reinforcement, firm hand, praise, you have it all. it does get exhausting when there are other concerns and worries that threaten to cave in around you.<br /><br />for what it's worth, i feel proud to call you friend. i look forward to seeing you Friday.abandonedsoulshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06020499806998154330noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-302767455915995629.post-48326523837636168992010-08-03T04:25:03.408-07:002010-08-03T04:25:03.408-07:00Just tossing out some thoughts here. Perhaps the ...Just tossing out some thoughts here. Perhaps the relocation has caused your son to lose some of his confidence. Some people have a difficult time with change.<br /><br />How are things going with your son's jiu jitsu classes? Is the new place working out okay? If not, perhaps he's lost a little of the confidence gained in his old class back in S.F. It may take him awhile to get back in his groove. If there's a problem there, maybe it's something that needs to be addressed as it seems the jiu jitsu is important to your son. I would not under-estimate that importance to his sense of self and confidence. <br /><br />Is there any other activity he likes and may be able to get back into now that you're in SD? Maybe something close to home that he can walk to and not need to lean on you for transportation. Have you got Boys & Girls Clubs there? The one in the town where I stay in winter has a lot of members and quite a lot of activities, many of which are geared toward confidence and skill building.<br /><br />Well, I have very limited experience with massage therapy. The one and only time I had a massage, the woman was extremely strong and even though she used some massage oils, I was left smarting with some major pain like what we used to call "indian burns" when we were kids (you would grab someone's wrist and twist the skin in opposite directions to make a sort of quasi- rope burn). However my burns were at the top of my back by my neck. Hurt for days. Needless to say, I haven't bothered going for any massages since then! I'm glad to hear that some people find them beneficial though. (-:bevhttp://magickcanoe.com/blog11noreply@blogger.com