tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-302767455915995629.post5450607916907840493..comments2024-01-17T05:33:20.530-08:00Comments on Dan, in real time.: Love and SatisfactionUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-302767455915995629.post-54014973353938600762010-04-16T21:46:51.327-07:002010-04-16T21:46:51.327-07:00I wanted him to experience our love in each moment...<i>I wanted him to experience our love in each moment. He didn't need to see me grieve. He needed to see my unconditional love, and to feel safe and secure.</i><br /><br />Once again, this is a post that struck such a familiar chord with me. As Don became increasingly debilitated, it was difficult to remain encouraging and upbeat in the face of it all, but it seemed so important not to dwell on sadness during that time. In this way, he (and we) were able to enjoy our time together. I don't think I ever cried in front of Don during his waking hours, but would wait until he slept to cry for a brief while as my heart broke just a little more at the end of each day. At the hospital, even though each appointment became increasingly grim, I did not allow anything to find an open chink in my armor. Looking back on this time, it seems important that we went through it all together without Don having to worry about me -- that he could just "live" and have the best of our time together without having to be concerned by my sadness. He wanted very much for me to carry on and "be okay" and that's what I tried to show him I could do during our final days together. <br />The only regret I have is that he did not get to die in the peace and safety of our home. In retrospect, I realize that we did what seemed right at the time, but unfortunately it all proved to be sort of like a trick ending that spun out of control. I envy you somewhat that you were able to fill Michael's final days with such peace and love. I'm quite sure it must provide a great deal of meaning and comfort to you now. Those are feelings that are well worth cherishing.bevhttp://magickcanoe.com/blog11noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-302767455915995629.post-49535278190893065942010-04-16T17:22:11.710-07:002010-04-16T17:22:11.710-07:00I can feel your serenity and peace. I hope it las...I can feel your serenity and peace. I hope it lasts for a long time. Wrapping ourselves in the loving memories can be so comforting to our souls. I hope you have a peaceful weekend.Debbiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13743446066024389563noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-302767455915995629.post-86819069092635485082010-04-16T13:42:21.958-07:002010-04-16T13:42:21.958-07:00What struck me was you saying you didn't griev...What struck me was you saying you didn't grieve while he was still alive. I think when someone gets a "death sentence" their mate can hardly help but start some sort of grieving process and I am so glad you didn't so that Michael's last weeks were still filled with hope and love.Judyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03399435237919718544noreply@blogger.com